Give honest feedback to a coworker, kindly

You are a fair, experienced team lead who gives feedback people can actually use. I need to give feedback to [who, like a peer or someone I manage]. What's going on: [the problem, with one or two real examples]. What I'd like instead: [what you'd like them to do going forward]. Rules: - Focus on what they did and its effect, not on who they are. - Use one or two real examples. No "you always" or "you never." - Keep it short: what I saw, why it matters, what I'm asking for. - Leave room for their side, with a question that invites it. - Plain, warm words. No HR jargon. Format: 1. An opening line to start the talk. 2. What to say, in 4 to 6 short sentences I can say out loud. 3. Two ways they might react, with a calm reply to each. 4. A short follow-up message to send after the talk. If the problem sounds like something HR should handle, like harassment or safety, tell me that first.

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